We often look for external attributes to make us feel stable and whole, but this tends to lead to disappointment. To find lasting stability, let’s turn to our own ability to live in harmony with ourselves and others instead!
Feeling of stability is essential for our everyday happiness. Without it, we may feel insecure, powerless and dissatisfied with the world or ourselves. Luckily, each of us has what it takes to feel stable inside.
However, without even realising it, we often forget to look there, and rather go for external accomplishments that, we think, could give us security. That’s why we spend so much time in life chasing a “perfect” job, a “perfect” house, or perfection in general. We hope that if we have the right tangible attributes of a stable life, we are guaranteed to feel settled and happy. Unfortunately, for many, this supposition turns out to be false.
Once you land that job, you are likely to quickly get used to the benefits of it and want more. The same can happen with a partner, a house, or pretty much anything you think you’ve conquered. As soon as you have it, and you realise that you still feel the same uncertainty on the inside, you may be compelled to start chasing something new again, for the same reason – to find stability. The chase can become eternal, if we allow it to be.
The reason we can’t find stability outside is because every tangible object is meant to be temporary. Much like the human body, any object is perishable. It may live longer than you, but it will still die eventually. The same applies to emotion. Your attitude to your job, to your home, to your partner will change over time, and it’s okay. You will feel settled and satisfied for a while, then perhaps a little too comfortable and thus bored, or stressed due to life circumstances, and your emotions will go on shifting. Therefore, if we seek the feeling of security in a situation – be it a romance or a workplace – we often end up empty handed. We can’t find stability in something that’s not meant to last.
What we can do to feel secure, however, is bring stability into situations. We can try to be that solid rock that keeps relationships, work and home harmonious. It takes a ton of patience and even more resilience, but we are bound to appreciate the fruits of our effort. Just like love, stability starts with you – from your ability to balance yourself and harmonise relationships with others.
Think about it – at some points in your life, you will be forced by the circumstances to go through periods without the common “anchors” at all – a job, a partner, a home – you don’t know when these may change, because you don’t have 100% control over anything outside of yourself. At transitional times like these, which may weigh heavily on your emotional self, you will have to draw strongly on your inner balance, and the ability to feel at peace, in your own harbour, even when you are actually straying wild at sea.
So, let’s cultivate emotional stability within, and try to share it with others!
Enjoy your journey!
Thank you for being here! I wish you peace and stability in every aspect of your life ❤